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August 21, 2009



"You never get over IF."

Truer words have never been spoken. Thank you for this post.


Right on. And PTSD is a good way to describe it. Mine is relatively mild, but it can turn me from rational to absolutely nuts in the space of a few minutes.

I only hope that someday soon, caregivers will realize that this is normal and natural after loss and IF.


Your story really touched me. You are so right. You never get over IF. I was blessed to have a successful pregnancy through ivf but there are many things that still bring tears to my eyes. Writing this right now my eyes are cloudy.

They say that it happens to a lot of women and don't feel bad or like something is wrong with you. But that's impossible! You have to take it personal, it happened to you. I will always feel that in some way I was broken, because I was.


oh, you hit a nerve. I am due for my annual as well, and I absolutely HATE going there now.

I have a similar PTSD moment I am going to blog about. I seem to be falling apart lately. Which is so not me. So now I am really facing some tough questions for myself.

Thank you for posting this.


I am the mother to two beautiful sons. My first I adopted in May 2008 and my second I adopted in March 2009. We have a house full of love and joy and I am so happy that after many failed attempts with IF treatments I have the family I always dreamed of. We just got there a different way than I expected. Thank you for this post. My sister-in-law delivered a healthy baby boy last month and I couldn't bring myself to go to the hospital and visit. Our family just didn't understand and probably never will. I just knew it would be bad for me to go. Thank you for reassuring me that it is normal for old feelings to come back when you least expect it!


Hi there, I followed your blog "way back when", left it for a while when your posts became more infrequent, and was super excited to re-visit and see you've adopted. Me too!

You're exactly right about IF not disappearing. I spent the majority of my 30's in an IF fog, and that doesn't go away overnight. Great post.

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