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June 10, 2009



It's not exactly the same thing, but I feel a little sad that our surrogate has made clear that she doesn't want any further contact. I can understand why, but I wish things were different.


I guess that's the other side of openness: allowing the first mom/parents to withdraw or limit contact due to life circumstances.

It's amazing--the variety of experiences and relationships that evolve in open adoption. I'm really learning a lot from the round table and thoughtful posts like yours--so thank you.


I used to work on an adoption study as an interviewer. One thing I noticed was that almost every participant I interviewed, whether birth or adoptive parent, seem to express desire to be either more or less open. I imagine it could be difficult to get it just right for both parties.


I've always thought last-minute placements must be some of the toughest to draw an open adoption out of. It must be hard to be introduced to open adoption in the middle of the of the trauma of placing. Thinking about what it would be like to see him again at the same time you're trying to say goodbye.

Thank you so much for participating. Your perspective on this is so thoughtful.

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