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July 16, 2008

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Allison

Sorry you're going through this. I dealt with the same thing at my last RE and decided to switch. My Dr. did tell me the same thing you are hearing though that getting a karaotype from a natural miscarriage is pretty tough because they can't get all the material. But you'd think they would have told you that up front!

luna

oh, that totally fracking sucks. i'm so sorry you have to deal with those ignoramuses. it's so aggravating when you can't even get good care for a crappy issue. I hope you are already looking for a new office for a fresh start somewhere else.

that also blows about your insurance. many kaisers suck (I hear there are a few good ones but most are not). I switched from an hmo to ppo when I needed surgery so I pay more per month for a better plan. still no i/f coverage though. and all the plans try to pay as little as possible for everything now...

Almamay

This is just terrible. I would make a formal complaint to this doctor and your current insurance company. You've got the basis of a complaint in this post so you could just tweak it and send it. People won't learn unless you do complain. If nothing else, that doctor and their support staff will think twice before they dispense useless advice. The doctor might also pick up the phone a hell of a lot faster to check on a patient if they think that patient might make a formal complaint. It would be nice if you had a doctor who understood but we can't always expect that. Fear of a complaint is a great motivator.

Sara Alvey

Incompetent doctors suck - there is no excuse for her waiting that amount of time to contact you. None. You deserve better medical attention, advice, information, etc... Start searching - you will feel better when you find a doctor who is on top of things! Sorry you are dealing with all of this!

Shelli

I've been though similar circumstances with two of my previous miscarriages. In fact, I've had 5 m/c's and three different doctors either mucked up the testing or "forgot" to test the remains.

I know how insanely pissed off you are, and rightfully so. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

duck

I have no idea what your going though, but GET A NEW DOCTOR, she sounds like an idiot.

I'm beginning to think that infertiles are smarter/more educated then the average fertile, as soon as I read Necrotic, I was like ooh, that's not good....

Sorry for your absolute cr*p experience.

Rachel

I'm really starting to wonder about this sub-field of medicine entirely ... I'm sorry you had to deal with all of this.

Sherry

R - I am so, so sorry that you had to have this experience with them, as if you haven't been through enough the past couple of weeks (months!) already.

I unfortunately have had some similar experiences with the wacky world of ob/gyn - one of them after one of my m/c that made me start shopping around for a better situation.

I hope you find someone you like, and someone who deserves your trust too. Still sending peaceful thoughts your way...

Aegina

I am equal measures sorry and indignant for you that you had to deal with this on top of everything else. I second Almamay's suggestion to complain, but I know it's just one more unfair demand on your time and energy when you need both for more important things. Keeping you all in my thoughts and heart.

Shinejil

Talk about adding insult to injury! I'm also for complaining, if you have the strength and will to do so. I could also see the reasoning in just walking the fuck away from someone who has so completely failed you in your moment of real crisis.

My thoughts are with you.

Shinejil

Talk about adding insult to injury! I'm also for complaining, if you have the strength and will to do so. I could also see the reasoning in just walking the fuck away from someone who has so completely failed you in your moment of real crisis.

My thoughts are with you.

the Babychaser

Oh my god, I would have gone off the deep end, too. If they weren't going to be able to test, why make you go through the collection and bringing it in? How awful is that? And you do have to wonder if waiting (and who knows if they waited with the material in the fridge for awhile) made it worse.

Anyway, I'm glad you went all lawyer on their asses.

Are you SURE you can't change to a new doctor without changing HMOs? That seems pretty draconian to me.

I'm feeling so bad for you. One of the hardest things about all of this is not just what fate does to us, but what the doctors, and asshole HMOs, and everyone else who's incompetent tend to do to make it worse.

I really hope the worst is behind you. Take care.

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