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June 01, 2008

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BrooklynGirl

The c-section issue is a tough one. I had an emergency c-section with my first child (a "premium pregnancy" as they say in the sense that it was the result of IVF and I was over 35) and a repeat c-section with my second because the whole emergency thing was too scary to go through again. I have no regrets about this, but then again, one could say that mine was a fear-based pregnancy and then the birth.

The key, I think, is finding a doctor/medical provider that honors your wishes to the largest extent possible.

DC

I love that last article! Makes me feel better about the fact that I will be an "older mom." (Jeez, I hate that term, don't you?)

duck

I wouldn't want a c-section either, but, from what i have been reading the US has been c-section happy...

Jo

As an "old" first time mom, some of those stats scared the hell out of me..
Ignore them and do what you want (as much as you can)
I was healthy, no weight issues yada yada.. did have 2 cerclages (first one fell out), was told 1st time. older mom's went early. (lie) Had to be induced for the bugger to come out. Delivered 8 lbs 15 oz naturally. I think the rush makes you forget a lot of what is happening after the fact.
Find a dr or center that will let you write your own birth plan to follow.
YAY OLD MOMS!!!!!

eggedout

I like the last paragraph best!!

Shinejil

My Physician's Assistant friend told me that women are often heading into L & D way too early, and that also contributes to induced labor and c-sections... Don't know if that's always true, or what she was basing her info on, but interesting tidbit nonetheless.

This kind of stuff always makes me rage, too.

Shinejil

My Physician's Assistant friend told me that women are often heading into L & D way too early, and that also contributes to induced labor and c-sections... Don't know if that's always true, or what she was basing her info on, but interesting tidbit nonetheless.

This kind of stuff always makes me rage, too.

Dr. Grumbles

That last one certainly is interesting!

And I too hate waiting between doctor visits.

~Carrie

The wait between ultrasounds is maddening!

Grrr.. so they push c-sections to avoid malpractice? Figures... and then they try to scare us 'older women' into them because of our age!

Don't even get me started on insurance companies. Can you imagine being pushed to have a c-section by your 'I want to cover my butt' doctor and then find your insurance company won't cover it?! People may say "Well, you should know your coverage ahead of time." Oh yeah? Often the wording is so abstract that you have to be an insurance guru to figure out all the nuances in the coverage guidelines, and often the people at the insurance company provide misinformation too! (I speak from personal experience - I won't rant about it here)

BTW, in your recent post in my blog, you stated what I was thinking, but much more eloquently than I. ("the instant you begin taking breaths in the world should be about celebrating life, not about identifying your gender") I may have to steal that line when trying to convince DH that we should find out ahead of time!

The Babychaser

I think I'm going to have to have a c-section (assuming I EVER get out of the first 6 weeks of pregnancy!), because of my myomectomy last fall. And the worst part is, after that, I REALLY don't want to have a c-section. That surgery HURT LIKE HELL! The recovery wasn't that bad, but I was being the one cared for, not the caretaker.

Anyway, I have to keep reminding myself when friends talk about their delivery, and I wonder what mine will be like, that it's almost certainly going to be surgery again.

If I were you I'd see if I could find a midwife. Someone to help lobby your position so the doctors hold off on cutting you open.

Ashley L.

I know what you mean about the disappearing and re-appearing symptoms. I'm experiencing them too. It is nerve-wracking. I've heard a couple of people second that this happened to them around 9-10 weeks. I also heard that one woman, overnight, lost her symptoms and everything was still fine. That faith thing is a bitch, I'll just say it. Hang in there.

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