Oh I'm so dang excited I can't see straight! The Agency Lady called today. Our new Favorite Donor has agreed to cycle again -- with us! Whee! So now we just need to submit a reservation form and down payment to "reserve" her. I told the Mister it felt weird, like reserving a rental car. He says it's really more like asking a good friend to hold X date to help you move. I'd still feel guilty about that -- moving sucks! -- but it does sound better. And it is similar, in that she's volunteering her body to do heavy lifting for us with no benefit to her except the karmic benefit of having done a mitzvah of gi-normous proportions (y'all don't mind if I mix my religious metaphors, do you?) I'm thinking, however, that we should probably do more to say "thank you" than offer her beer and pizza afterwards.
She's in the middle of a cycle now and will need a rest month, plus she has a hiking trip planned ... the Agency Lady said that by July she will be ready. Now, some folks might think I'd start whimpering and whining about this young lady wanting to take her vacation while I sit here and agonize over another month of childlessness. Au contraire! Not this country girl. My brothers would be the first to testify that I would never stand between a girl and her backpack! When we were kids and my mom put on her boots and day pack, we knew that she'd reached her limit -- no amount of whining would prevent her from walking out that door. In fact, if she needed a hike, it was at least 80% our fault anyway, and ain't nobody was going to be happy until she'd climbed that mountain. So when Agency Lady says Favorite Donor needs to go hiking, I say "yes ma'am, absolutely, whatever she needs!" Hike away. I'll be patient, I promise.
So July. I'm not sure what that means in terms of my part of the cycle. I guess my RE will start me on bcp's in June or so to synch my cycle up with hers. LawyerBrain thinks: what could go wrong? Of course Favorite Donor could always change her mind. Or her current cycle (which is her first) could turn out badly. But both of those possibilities seem unlikely. Be still, LawyerBrain. Go have a glass of wine.
I was so depressed this weekend -- partly I haven't been running lately, partly from the interminable rain (and hail -- two perfectly good weekend days with nothing but black clouds and little rocky pieces of ice falling from the sky, WTF?!), but partly because I hate being stuck and feeling out of control of my life. I need to be looking forward to something, anything, or my brain just starts feeding on itself in all sorts of unpleasant ways. Now that I have some kind of half-certainty, I can tell myself all sorts of positive things like "okay, you've got until July to get back in shape!" or "it's only for a few months" or "she really does seem like a fascinating girl and how amazing is it that she's willing to give you some of her eggs??!" I mean really. It is pretty damn miraculous that people do this for perfect strangers.
how very cool! She likes to backpack, very nice, i get that too, good karma, it will help her in the cycle.
I'm having the same blahs the i still see snow but it's april blah, the i'm so out of shape i won't be able to fit into any of my work clothes, blah. Oh well, I'm trying to get back into shape, i just want my clothes to fit me!
Posted by: Duck | April 01, 2008 at 05:48 AM
Amazing news.
Posted by: BrooklynGirl | April 01, 2008 at 06:50 AM
Sounds like it was meant to be! A hiking donor of choice!! Congrats.
I very much relate to the "depressing weekend." And, like you, it's lack of exercise, uncertainty about next steps and a general antipathy about not having any control. You're on the right path, July is a stone's throw away.
Posted by: Melanie | April 01, 2008 at 07:51 AM
Congratulations! How exciting! And it's much easier to put up with waiting when you know there's an end in sight (at least it is for me.) Glad you found someone so simpatico!
Posted by: Aegina | April 01, 2008 at 05:04 PM
Congratulations! That's great news! July will be here in no time.
Posted by: Egged | April 02, 2008 at 06:46 AM
First: YAY!!! Second: If I had the choice of giving you my eggs or helping you move...yeah, I'd hafta go with the eggs! :) However, since my eggs are as old as yours, I'm thinking at some point I'm gonna hafta help you people move...darn it! I'm 'cited for you and the Mister!
Posted by: Kelly | April 02, 2008 at 01:19 PM
Congratulations on 'reserving' your donor, and one with some ‘hiking genes’ too! :)
Posted by: ~Carrie | April 04, 2008 at 12:20 PM